Enough!

Sometimes it sucks when after a long time we realise that after calling these people ''friends'' for so long, we realise that they we just taking all our energy. They are not worth the title that we give them. It is sad that only after so much time we realise this. These type of people just take and take and do not give. The friendship is not mutually beneficial and then you decide to terminate the friendship. This has happened to me a lot over the years and I guess that it has made me experienced in choosing my friends wisely. I have been hurt and burned by many times by people that I thought were my friends and this is why I choose my friends so carefully. People always try to take advantage of you because they think that you are passive or submissive but then get shocked when you move away from them or start playing the game the way that they are playing. People always expect people to bow down to them or to be yes-men. And then when you have finally had enough and say something, they get shocked that you are capable of such. But what did they expect? As time goes by, people get fed up and even those that you thought are 'sweet' or 'friendly' get angry and then you say 'I cannot believe it', ' I did not think that they were like that'. But what did they expect? People should really look at the way that they treat others because how you treat others is a direct reflection of your self esteem and how you were raised. Our parents did not raise us to belittle or put down others and I am sure that they would be shocked at how some of us act.
 And we should also  think, if we had children would we want them to behave in this manner? I am sure that most of us would not. It is time for us to change and become better people.

Where did we all go wrong?

As people, we are never satisfied with what we have, we are always wanting more. It always seems as though we are in constant competition with one another. We are always trying to one-up someone. Especially as women, we are always judging one another, always talking about each other behind each other's backs. What ever happened to sisterhood? As women, whether we like it or not, we are sisters. We are supposed to be there for one another in our hour's of need. Everything has just gotten so materialistic, we judge each other on the types of clothing that we wear, the amount of make-up that we have onor whether our hair is natural or if we have weaves or braids on. It is no longer about what we say and what is actually in our heads but rather what we look like on the outside. The fact that we downgrade and put down others instead of lifting each other up and maintaining that 'sisterhood' we always speak of. I must admit, I am also sometimes guilty of this too. But I am working hard at it to not be so judgemental.

" Once you get over looking back, the road is a lot clearer. The farther away you walk, the easier it gets to not look back. Sometimes by walking away you realise just how happy you can be on your own. Life goes on because time will never stop for anyone. We must keep moving forward. Anyone can tell you that they love you. Talk is so cheap. Love is shown in action. It hurts, but when you finally close the door on that chapter, it will open another to someone who will be worthy of you."- Anne Michele.

It's weird how we never plan on falling in love with someone but it happens anyway. How we always say 'I do not want to fall in love with anyone' and then we fall in love with them  and they become our world. How we cannot imagine our lives without them and we never know how we survived so long without them. They come into your life and then BANG, they just revolutionize your whole world and make you want to become a better person, inside and out. That  one person who makes you look forward for another day just so you can see them, when your whole day revolves around seeing them and just being in their vacinity is enough for you. Recognising their voice no matter where they may be and smiling like an idiot when you hear it. Knowing that they have their flaws but still to you, they are imperfectly perfect. And eveything that they seem to do is perfect and when after a looong they know just the right thing to say to make your day seem alll worthwhile. Love like this >.